Before You Say I Do

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Do you take _____ to be your wedded husband/wife to live together in marriage?  Do you promise to love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health and forsaking all others, be faithful only to him/her so long as you both shall live?

 

Thousands of people get married daily in America. Many repeat these vows or add more to these vows, but few understand the meaning behind these nuptial agreements. In modern society, it seems the sacredness of wedding vows have little value and are just a part of the show. For some, having a wedding is more important than being married. Here are some things to consider before you say I do?

Partnership

“Do you take _____ to be your wedded husband/wife to live together in marriage?” Marriage is a legal acknowledgment of a commitment to partnership. Living together in marriage declares to the world that while in this union we will not separate. As partners in marriage, we will not do our own thing, and we will regard each other’s emotions. As husband and wife, we will communicate with each other. Living together in marriage is not blocking each other on social media, ignoring each other, sleeping on the couch, sleeping in separate homes, confiding in others before confiding in each other, hiding finances, spending more time with other people (even online) than you do with your spouse. Marriage is a partnership, a unity of love, and the two of you have become one, or at least that was the promise you made.

 

Promises

“Do you promise to love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health and forsaking all others?” Before the marriage, you must agree to keep certain promises. Never lose sight on the legally binding promises you have made to one another. You are bound by law to honor one another, to keep one another for better or for worse. For better or worse does not mean that a person can treat you how they want to and you are just supposed to accept it. For better or worse means that in a marriage you are going to experience good days and bad days because that is part of being human. You will lose family members and friends, you will get sick, you will have issues at work, and a host of other things. You need a partner to comfort you and support you on your worse days. You need someone who will forsake all others and put you first. These are the promises that you have made to one another in your wedding vows.

 

Commitment

“Be faithful only to him/her so long as you both shall live.” Commit to your partner. Learn to put your faith in your partner and be someone that can place their faith in. Faithful means being dependable, loyal, reliable, and consistent. Your partner needs to know they can count on you for the big things and the little things.  You need to be a person that handles their business for the benefit of the family. If your spouse needs you to be there for them, then your priority is to be there for them. There are days that events come up that you want to attend, but your spouse needs you. There are old habits you love, but for your partner’s sake, you need to commit to change. Marriage is an agreement to be one, and if one part of the body hurts then the whole body hurts. Be faithful!

 

Before you get married consider the vows you are taking. Take a minute and ask yourself am I ready to commit to these vows? Am I ready to be legally bound to this agreement? If you believe in God are you ready to commit these vows to God and hold this promise? These are just the traditional vows so keep in mind when you create personal vows make sure you are ready to keep those promises. If you are already married just consider the promises you made and live up to them. We are not perfect, but it’s never too late to change. Kianna and Curtis exchanged wedding vows that they chose not to keep in the book Anotha on the Hitlist. When Kianna and Curtis forgot their vows, it had serious consequences. If you are looking for an example of wedding vows gone wrong then download the short story and read today.

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